EP #4 Making Life Easy: Fact vs Story

Alright, this distinction is going to make your life so much easier.

In this episode, I distinguish between fact and story.

Our mind is an incredible storyteller, but more often than not, it creates stories that are not…. ahem… that nice.

We make assumptions about other people, our job, events, and even ourselves.

We fall into the trap of creating incredibly compelling and lengthy stories that begin to rule our lives, but rarely do we look at the hard-core facts of what is happening.

‘My parents got divorced when I was young and my dad left and he never talked to me which means that I’m unlovable, I’m not worthy enough, and he loved his other kids more than me which means that there is something very, very wrong with me.’

I wish this was a made-up example, but that’s the way I went through life.

That was an incredible story that my mind created because especially when we’re young, we need to connect the dots & fill in the blank areas.

Our kind and loving baby minds are trying to protect us and keep us safe, which is awesome, but when we become grown adults — it doesn’t serve us.

The facts were: My parents got a divorce, dad didn’t talk to me, he had a new family, end of the story.

The story that I created was: I’m not lovable, I’m not good enough, my dad doesn’t love me which means that there’s something wrong with me and probably no man ever will love me.

It's time to free yourself.

When you begin to catch yourself in the story, and become aware of what kind of stories you’re creating — and when and where — you begin to free yourself.

Living by these awful stories is mental torture, lemme tell you.

There’s no way we’re going to feel peaceful, calm, and worthy when we’re going around believing all the nonsense that our mind creates!

IN THIS EPISODE I DISCUSS:

• What is fact vs story

• What an incredible storyteller our mind is

• My own personal experience of working with a coach and unraveling this story that I had created with my dad

• Understanding that this work takes time!