Feel Your Feelings, Don't Suppress Them

by Gabie Rudyte May 19, 2020 2 min read

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Feel your feelings.

So simple, yet so powerful.

I used to think that if I'm not happy 24/7, there's something wrong with me.
If I'm not excited, positive, and cheerful at all times - it means I'm not a 'happy person.'
Not only was I wrong, but I was also suppressing a lot of the things that needed to be felt.
The frustration, the anger, the sadness, the disappointment, the annoyance, the pain.
These feelings are good, we need them, and they're important.

However, the easiest option at times is to ignore and suppress the feelings that are very uncomfortable.

Rejection, disappointment, hurt, pain.

My life coach said to me once:
When we bury a feeling, we bury it alive.

This phrase was so powerful that I wasn’t able to get it out of my head ever since.
If you don't allow yourself to feel things and let it out of your system, you're only suppressing it and burying it within you. However, it’s not going to go away. It’s only going to pile up, pile up, pile up, and cause turmoil later on.
Eventually, all of it might even erupt.

I wasn’t feeling that great last week.
I felt annoyed, angry, sad, and frustrated.
I had a lot of negative beliefs nagging at me, and ridiculous thought such as:
‘I am not worthy, I’m not capable.’

And you know what?
I let myself feel all of it.

In the past, I would have ignored it and suppressed.
I would’ve tried to make myself happy ASAP, so I can just avoid these feelings that have come up.

Now, I simply let all of these feelings flow through me, and I get curious.
I ask myself:
Why am I feeling this?
What triggered this?
What am I currently thinking or believing that is causing this turmoil inside of me?

I have a habit of intellectualizing my emotions and thinking about them, rather than really feeling them.
This does no good, as it’s just another way of avoiding what needs to be felt.
I just sit with myself and fully tune into what I’m feeling.

If I want to cry, I cry.
If I want to curse, I curse.

Emotions such as anger, frustration, sadness, hurt, and annoyance are just as important and vital as happiness, joy, and positivity.

Whatever you feel, let yourself feel it.
It might be uncomfortable, it might be difficult, but emotions are just energy.
If you don’t release the energy, it’s going to get stuck in your body and cause all kinds of disharmony later on.

Give yourself the gift of processing emotions in a healthy way, and dealing with them now, so they don’t cause more pain and turmoil in the future.

Accept it, feel it, and let it out of your system.

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